In a tough economy like our current one, many of the television shows, movies, and magazines are not very helpful to today’s bride. There are tons of programs showing how the financially comfortable bride can have a gorgeous, lavish wedding and reception, with no details overlooked. Other shows have wedding planners that swoop in at the last moment, change your plans, and amaze you with splendor you can only imagine. Bridal magazines show the newest, most couture styles on reed thin models, that have every girl running to a salon to try on ‘the’ dress. Movies show happy parents with deep pockets, that only want the best for their princess.
The problem with these media monsters is that they set up the average bride for huge disappointments with regard to her wedding. Most people don’t fit in that economic group that can reserve a movie studio, castle, or entire island, then hire florists, lighting specialists, linen experts, china experts, circus performers, a popular rock band, well… you get the idea. The wedding planners that save you from yourself, are definitely not working with your budget, they have a television show budget. Let’s face it, if you or I had that kind of money available to us, we could put on a pretty fabulous event, too. Those perfect designer gowns in the magazines often don’t show the prices because many people would choke.
My point (yes, there really is one), is that brides want what they see and like, what makes them feel special. Watching the shows and perusing the magzines for ideas is great, but the truth is, the things you see there are often out of reach for most brides, and out of their parent’s reach, too. One of the biggest causes of dissention between a bride and her parents is money, and not staying on budget. Brides sometimes become difficult, and downright nasty when they don’t get what they want. I have a few tips for the bride, and her family.
Be realistic when setting your budget. Discuss your vision for your wedding with your parents before you start buying things. If everyone is on the same page about the style and formality, that will help. If you have seen something over the top on TV that you just have to have, find out if it can be done by local florist or crafter, or if you can reproduce it. Search pictures for an elegant centerpiece you can put together yourself. Instead of a full bouquet, consider a long-stemmed showy flower for you or your bridesmaids. Pick a time of day for your wedding that is not evening, therefore, not considered a formal affair. Food for your reception would be less expensive also for an earlier wedding, as you wouldn’t be expected to provide a full on dinner. There are so many ways to trim your expenses and free up some of that budget money for the must have items, or to scale down on the glitz and glamour to trade for some really luxurious fabrics or classic, elegant touches.
Be kind to yourself and to your parents by not letting your sense of entitlement take over and cause hurt feelings and stress. Just remember that your wedding is only for one day, family is forever.