So, I have watched that show about the bridezillas, and I hate it! While it can be occasionally entertaining, for the most part it simply promotes bad behavior on the part of the bride. When our moms and grandmothers told us that you catch more flies with honey, they weren’t kidding. Seriously, why would anyone want to take one of the most special and exciting times of their lives and turn it into a tantrum that would do a cranky two year old proud?
Vendors and retailers are people, too. If your relationship with them is warm and cordial, you will find that they want to please you, they want to help you have the perfect wedding. There is a mistaken notion circulating around that businesses in the bridal industry are there to rip you off, and that business owners are getting rich off of their clients. That is so far from the truth. Yes, they have to make some money on your dress, for heaven’s sake, do you put in your forty hours each week and then tell your boss no thanks to a paycheck? Of course you don’t. Your doctor, your jeweler, and your grocery store all make a profit on their goods and services, that is how they stay in business.
It is hard to maintain composure and hold off the panic mode with all the expenses associated with a wedding, but planning and organization is your best defense. If you can afford a planner, that may be one your best investments. The amount of time, stress, and running around they can save you will be worth it in the long run. If a planner is not in your budget, become your own planner. Purchase a binder or portfolio folder with pockets that will stand up to constant use, as it will become almost as close to you as your fiance.
Sit down with your future husband, your family, his family, or anyone else that will be contributing financially to your wedding. Figure out what type of budget you are working with, and be honest. Don’t set yourself up for disappointment by overestimating what you have to work with, and then being difficult or petulant when you can’t have everything you wanted. If you are realistic about your finances, you will be able to determine the things that are priorities for you and concentrate on them. Some of the things you thought you wanted may become less important once you determine your must haves.
Working with your vendors and retailers, instead of against them, will make your life easier, and less stressed. It will also make life easier for them, which will result in them going the extra mile for you. If you surround yourself with people who are supportive and helpful, it is possible to keep that bridezilla locked up, and make your wedding beautiful and perfect from start to finish.
